A Different Life....

Now here I am, anchoring a thirty minute newscast everyday, Facing hundreds of thousands of people daily. Airing stories that simply affect my viewers lives, meeting different kinds of people from all walks of life everyday. Delivering the news that matters to people is not easy. Alot of things you need to sacrifice including your own life, including time for your family and even friends would hurt your feelings because they believe they cannot reach out to you anymore...this might not be new, but this brings a sad part of my life.

Receiving messages of affirmation from your old folks, present friends and even unknowns is indeed very flattering, sometimes you can even brag on it... But hearing things that you seems so far away from them is inevitable for me nowadays. I get to have these messages from my facebook account, cellphone messages and even on twitter, it simply is not true. I just don't have the time to mingle anymore, the way it is used to be.

Sometimes, I would think there is no more venue for fun and games, because outside your house people will look at you from head to foot. People will judge you according to how they see you on tv and even how you walk and dress-up while dropping by a mall. It's totally a different life for me and no regrets, after all this is what i always wanted to do... Just sad about friends leaving you behind.

A song by Baz Lurman says, "understand that friends come and go, but there are precious few to hold on". This is true, many say that Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave and impossible to forget, but you can only say as much as you push. I miss my friends and i know my real friends-real good friends are happy of what i have achieved now.

It's totally a different life now, alot of responsibilities that may open better opportunities for me. I just hope that one day, i get to see all of them and explain that I am still me, their friend who can still laugh with them, play with them, jam with them and party with them. A life that only a few is given the privileged to live with. A life that is a living sacrifice. My friends might not thoroughly understand it but hoping one day, this life i chose to live will help them understand the true meaning of sacrifice.

I miss sharing bottles of beer with my bestfriend, I miss the simple boys talk that we do. I miss the sharing of opinions from simple to complicated issues on matters of sex, girls and problems. I miss it when somebody calls or somebody beeps for a dinner and then later- beers. I miss it when somebody knocks on your room and ask you to hang out and chill out. I miss it, but i understand, we are kids no more.

Life is a choice. It's what you choose to live with. It's a decision and a sacrifice to make. I believe I am an existentialist, my philosophy would simply agree that you live in this world for a purpose. Everything happens for a reason and whether you like it or don't, you are here for a reason, there is a reason for everything-including yours, It's up for me now to find out what's in store for me here. Great ancient and modern philosophers believe that there is a formula to live a better and meaningful life, it's up for me to look for that formula.

Have you found yours, my friend? Call me when you do.

Working Relationship

After a day of hectic schedule, Everyone in this competitive industry is very tired. Maintaining a good relationship among colleagues is such a challenge. I am only a year and a half here in ABS-CBN Gensan, but lately i feel like im getting closer to my colleagues... we are actually getting closer to each other. One way to do that is the infamous boodlefight, once in awhile. Boodlefight is a military style of eating where long table is prepared with food on top of banana leaves. We may not be military but just like the men in uniform, we protect the right of the people to be informed.

In a community of intellectual people, every task seems an opportunity to present the best of what you are and what you've got. In ABS-CBN, skills is very important, as what has always been embibed to me, We do not need inefficient people. That's why perhaps you could always make good remarks with ABS-CBN works than that of the other.

Our daily lives in News Department is unimaginable, a single second counts. Everyone plays a significant role, one man down for a day would be a whole day of messing up, but everyone can still turn upside down, depends most likely on everyone's mood. However, keeping your cool is not that easy in this job. But what they are always telling us is that, Patience is a virtue.

Conflict is just part of growing up in a workplace. In an institution like what i am inclined to, it's not easy to avoid it especially if your colleagues believe your idea is better than yours. These are the people you spend your most time with, and a single word could actually ruin your day. According to studies, our colleagues at work have enormous impact on our daily mood, stress level and emotional well-being.

The saddest part is, unresolved conflict in a professional setting could simply cause us stress and ultimately our loved ones, when we go home at night-one thing i really hate the most. Come to think of it, you spend more than 8 hours of your time with them and yet, they have the tendency to screw you. While your family at home spends only less than 5 hours because the rest is basically your sleeping with them.

Jack Bauer says there is always a resolution to every conflict and this case-appreciation. Some phsychologists would tell you, you can beat conflicts when you learn to affirm or appreciate. And guess what-it's effective! If someone feels appreciated especially in times of conflict, he or she can shift gears to a more cooperative spirit. Understand that conflict sometimes arises suddenly and seemingly out of nowhere. Conflicts can even come in different forms and shapes, nobody is immune to it.

Now going back to boodlefight, this way we manage the daily stress. We can just simply eat and talk. We can generate positive emotions and be like friends all the time. This will somehow transform the intellectual intercourse to a simply chit chats. Thanks to boodlefight, after all, conflict is not a bad thing.

I'm Jay Dayupay, let's be friends, ayt?